

Tips For Supporting Grievers
1. Be There for Them
Just being there for your friend can mean a lot. You don't always have to say anything—sometimes, just being present is enough.
2. Listen Really Well
When your friend talks, give them your full attention. This means really listening, not just waiting for your turn to speak.
3. Leave 'At Least,' Out of Your Condolences
Using the phrase 'at least' when speaking to grieving individuals can be hurtful. Statements like 'at least he died peacefully' or 'at least she lived a full life' may unintentionally dismiss or minimize their feelings
4. Don’t Give Advice
Now’s not the time for giving advice unless they specifically ask for it. Just be there to listen and support.
5. Don’t Make It About You
Keep the focus on them. Don’t relate your own stories to show you understand. It’s common to try to shift the conversation to yourself to find comfort, but just don’t do it
6. Allow Them to Be Sad
Don’t try to ‘fix them.’ They are not broken. You can’t make it better, but you can make them feel safe.
7. Allow for Silence and Quiet Time
Don’t feel the need to fill the silence with chatter. Silence can be really helpful for someone who’s grieving.
8. Invite Them To Enjoy Nature, Movement, and Expressive Arts With You
Sometimes, being in nature, physical expression, exercise, or doing something creative can help a lot.
How to Take Care of Yourself
Supporting someone through grief can be emotionally draining. Make sure you’re also looking after yourself.
1. Set Boundaries
Know your limits and communicate them to your friend. It’s okay to take a step back when you need to.
2. Practice Self-Care
Engage in activities that help you relax and feel good.
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Examples:
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Take walks or spend time in nature
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Journal or meditate
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Hang out with other friends and family
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Do something creative like drawing or playing music
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3. Seek Support for Yourself
Don’t go through this alone. Talk to someone you trust about how you’re feeling.
4. Be Kind to Yourself
Remember that it’s okay to have mixed emotions and that you’re doing your best.
Supporting a friend who has lost someone is tough, but your care and presence can be incredibly comforting. Your kindness and empathy will be a huge source of strength for your friend during this difficult time.