Tips For Supporting Grievers

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• Be there. Your presence matters more than words.

• Listen fully. Don’t fix, don’t prepare your response - just listen.

• Avoid “at least.” It can unintentionally minimize their pain.

• Avoid platitudes, such as:

  • "time heals all wounds'

  • 'they are in a better place' 

  • 'at least they had a full life'  

• Skip advice. Unless they ask, stay with listening and support.

• Keep it about them. Don’t shift the focus to your own stories.

• Let them feel. They’re not broken, don’t try to fix their grief.

• Allow silence. You don’t need to fill the space.

• Offer simple connection. A walk, fresh air, or something creative can help.

Take Care of Yourself, Too

• Know your limits. It’s okay to step back when needed.

• Do what restores you. Nature, movement, quiet time, creativity.

• Talk to someone you trust. You don’t have to carry this alone.

• You are not responsible for their pain. You cannot fix it. 

• Be gentle with yourself. You’re showing up and that matters.

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You don’t have to have the right words. Your presence, steadiness, and care are enough.

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